It’s very common for an angry, scorned spouse to begin spying on their soon-to-be ex. In fact, plenty of couples that haven’t even begun speaking to attorneys about a separation already spy on each other. And if you find out that your spouse is in fact spying on you, you should be alarmed, and be open to the idea of talking to an attorney about the situation.

There are a few ways your spouse might be spying on you, and a few reasons why. For instance, your spouse may follow you around and spy on you, to see if you go to a bar to go drinking, or if you are buying and taking drugs (in any manner), and even stalk if your spouse thinks you are seeing someone whom they particularly don’t like or trust, like a friend or an ex.

If they notice that money is mysteriously missing or running low, they might think that you are spending the money irresponsibly, and perhaps not even on the family. Spouses will often check bank statements and credit reports of their spouse, if they aren’t already in a joint account with you.

It is important to note that a lot of people are just naturally suspicious, maybe even a little paranoid, especially if they have dealt with trust issues in past relationships. Some people are insecure, and their spying may be indicative of seeking reassurance. Others still are controlling but just because they may have been spying, it doesn’t mean the relationship is over. However, it is certainly something that should be dealt with immediately, before it turns into something worse.