Archive for the ‘Child custody’ Category

What If The Non-Custodial Parent Doesn’t Appear For A Court Date?

Wednesday, August 29th, 2018

Assuming that the non-custodial parent was properly served, and made aware of the court date, they are expected, and demanded, to show up to court. Typically, a summons, along with other relevant documents to that court date, will be included in the service, and will also notify the parent of the date, time and location of the court date.

There are certain types of cases in which the penalty for not appearing can lead to a bench warrant being issued for that person’s arrest. However, with regard to custodial/non-custodial parent issues, if the non-custodial parent does not appear, it will only serve to hurt them in the divorce process. Suppose that you are the non-custodial parent, and the court date is set to discuss a potential modification to the custody agreement. While it is not a guarantee that, if the non-custodial parent does not show up, the court will rule in favor of the other party, it is really not a good look for the non-custodial parent, and is not indicative of someone who A. is responsible, and B. really wants to have a new custody arrangement that will allow them to see their kids more.

If the court date is to discuss child support, then the non-custodial parent’s absence could mean that the court makes a decision without the non-custodial parent being able to represent themselves and their interests in court, which could be incredibly important, depending on the exact nature of the issue being discussed in court. So, besides giving off the impression that you just don’t care, missing court dates means that you will not get to have your interests represented and argued for, which leaves you at the mercy of the decision made by the court – without you.  

How Does Remarriage Affect Child Custody?

Friday, August 24th, 2018

When it comes to children’s living circumstances, the court holds “what is in the best interest of the child” as their most determining factor. With that in mind, parents are often worried about beginning a new romantic relationship, because they fear that it may create an environment in which their child does not feel comfortable. Not only would a parent with physical custody worry about this, but a non-custodial parent as well, as they already have their child with them for a limited amount of time, and would not want to give the court a reason to further limit this time. But does that mean a parent can’t begin an intimate relationship with a new person, let alone remarry?

First, it’s important to recognize the common scenarios in which remarriage affects a child life. For instance, if the remarriage might lead to a relocation of one of the parents, and in that scenario, the child’s life would be greatly affected. If the custody agreement states the parents have equal time, then a move like this would severely impact the agreement and the child’s  current state. In this scenario, the custody agreement would have to be modified in order to allow such a move.

Another instance where remarriage can impact the custody of a child is if the new spouse and the child do not have a good relationship. While this can be in the form of physical abuse, it does not have to be. Again, it is what is in the best interest of the child that the courts care about primarily, and if they feel that the presence of the new spouse has a negative impact on the child, they will be more than willing to make a modification of the custody agreement. The court will look to see a corresponding change in the child, whether it be in school or in their behavior, to signal that the current set-up is not working.

Ultimately, if one of the parents is planning on remarrying, then the new spouse should want to develop a positive and fostering relationship with the child, whether the parent wants to potentially gain more custody time, or preserve the custody arrangement they have currently.

Can The Custodial Parent Limit Visitation If The Noncustodial Parent Hasn’t Paid Child Support?

Thursday, August 2nd, 2018

When a non-custodial parent isn’t making child support payments, a common, yet misguided, response by the custodial parent is to withhold visitation rights to the other parent. Especially is this is not done through legal means and simply by but preventing or not allowing the non-custodial parent to see their child. The reason that this move is ill advised is because not only is it very unlikely to get the spouse to pay, but it can also potentially backfire and have negative consequences down the road.

If it comes out that you are withholding visitation from the other parent, you are also seen as withholding visitation for the child to see their parent, and the child has every right to see their parent. The court feels that the child should not have to be punished for their parent not making support payments. Moreover, just because you are not allowed to see your child does not make you exempt from being required to pay child support. So ultimately, you are withholding visitation even while the non-custodial parent will be required to make child support payments.

Finally, it is very unwise to play the role of deciding visitation, especially in the sense that you are in any way restricting visitation, and therefore negatively impacting the relationship between that parent and the child. The court is very opposed to this, as recently there has been an increased emphasis on each parent supporting the child’s relationship with the other parent. Any act against this could become problematic down the road.

Which Parent Is More Likely to Be Granted Sole Custody?

Tuesday, June 19th, 2018

The question of whether a mother or father is more likely to get full, sole custody of their child is an interesting one. In the late 1800’s, a legal principle in family common law, known as the Tender Years doctrine, was commonly called upon to argue that the mother should have custody of the child. The idea behind the doctrine is that in the “tender years” of the child, a colloquial term referring to childhood and adolescence, it would be cruel to create any space between a mother and her young child, and that a child in these tender years needs all of the love and affection that only a mother can give. Granted, it was not written into the law, and it served more as an assumed presumption, one that was adopted by some courts in the U.S. from a custody law that was passed by British Parliament in the mid-1800’s. Still, it persisted in child custody battles for over one hundred years.

However, as time went on, the courts stopped recognizing the presumption, and actually went back and started reversing decisions that were heavily based on the tender years presumption, and the courts began ruling based on rather gender-neutral respects. That is why in most of the country, the court determine custody with the best interests of the child as the primary factor, where the presumption is that the primary caretaker is going to be the best parent to handle the primary responsibilities and custody of their small child.

However, there is a bit of similarity in these two determinants. In many instances, granting the mother sole custody is in the best interests of the child, either because the father is not a fit parent in his own right, or because the father moved significantly far, to the point that it would do more harm than good to relocate the child. But, keep in mind that, if the roles were reversed, these same reasons could be behind the rationale behind why a court would grant the father sole custody.

Who Decides Upon The Visitation Schedules?

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2018

Because you and your spouse will no longer be living together after the divorce, a visitation schedule will be constructed to preemptively map out the dates and times the child will spend with each parent, and to organize the child’s life in an orderly fashion. This schedule is greatly (and obviously) impacted by the child custody order, as depending on whether there is sole or joint custody will subsequently influence how much time the child spends with each parent. But, who creates the visitation schedule?

As is the case with all child-related matters in family court, the judges primary concern is “what is in the best interest of the child?” Although a judge is not always needed to decide custody and visitation (for example, both of these can be dealt with outside of court by working with a mediator), if it gets to that point, the judge will be the one to decide on what custody/visitation arrangement is in the best interests of the child. By going to court, and not resolving these issues amongst themselves, parents are no longer in control over a huge part of the child’s life.

It would be ideal for the parents to be able to cooperate in the construction of the visitation schedule and create a realistic custody agreement that works for the family, as well as their child. The way that you and your spouse would decide on these issues is most likely not going to be in line with what a judge would rule on, however they will always be focused on ensuring the child’s interests are the top priority.  

 

What Are Some Best Practices For Preparing For A Child Custody Evaluation?

Thursday, April 12th, 2018

Custody evaluations are a very common legal process in which a court-selected mental health expert assesses the family, and from their assessment, they make a recommendation to the court for a child custody plan, as well as visitation.

The expert will meet with both parents and the child, and their recommendation will reflect what they believe will be in the best interest of the child. The child evaluation process usually comes about because the parents could not come to an agreement on a custody plan.

Although there are no tricks to “passing” your evaluation, there are a few things to keep in mind when meeting with the examiner and some tips on how you should handle yourself. First, above all else, cooperate with the evaluator and make yourself available for appointments, showing up on time and staying positive. Even though you might have severe anxiety that you aren’t “impressing” the evaluator, you really won’t be doing yourself any favors by being uncooperative and unreceptive, as it will reflect very poorly on you.

In addition, although you may have had some serious issues with your spouse during the marriage, if it doesn’t really reflect their parenting competence or anything relevant to the child, it won’t do much for your case. Unless their behavior is something that directly involves their parenting ability or jeopardizes the child, it is best to not vent your feelings to the examiner.

This next tip is strongly advised, as it can seriously ruin any chance you have of getting custody of your child, even if your intentions were good. DO NOT ENCOURAGE OR DIRECT YOUR CHILD TO SPEAK NEGATIVLEY OF THEIR OTHER PARENT PRIOR TO THEM MEETING THE EVALUATOR. Expert examiners can easily tell when a child has been a coached, especially young child, and this will look really bad for you. I bring this up (in a separate paragraph) because tons of parents make this mistake, thinking that if they cover all the bases, custody is as good as theirs. But in reality, you will look like a desperate and deceitful parent who isn’t confident in their parenting abilities.

When meeting with the evaluator, either with alone or with the child, present yourself as a reasonable, communicative and adaptable parent. A few things to consider when speaking with the examiner is to keep you emotions in check as best you can, don’t interrupt or raise your voice, and don’t focus on trying to convince them that your spouse is the devil. This will make you look like someone who is not in control of their emotions, and does not portray you as a fit and ideal parent. If the evaluation is at your home, it would be wise to have your home looking as good as it can be. While you don’t have to do an entire home makeover, the basics include a clean living space, a stocked fridge and cupboards, and the bedrooms should look more than just hospitable. If other people live in the house with you, they should be present for the interview as well.

Preparation is key, but don’t be fake – be the best version of you that you can be. The more prepared you are, the more likely you are to present yourself better to the examiner.

Paul E. Rudder, Esq. has a unique advantage in negotiating custody disputes as he also is often appointed by courts as Attorney (Guardian) for children in high conflict divorces. If you need legal assistance from a child custody lawyer in NYC, call 212-826-9900 today.

What Happens When You Disagree Which School Your Child Will Go To?

Monday, January 15th, 2018

The answer to this question depends heavily on the type of child custody each parent has, or doesn’t have for that matter. Broadly speaking, the child will go to school based on where the custodial parent resides as that will usually be in the child’s best interest (remember that this is the most important factor to the court whenever handling anything to do with children). However, when legal custody is shared between the parents, most educational decisions are to be mutually agreed on, as that falls under the scope of legal custody. If an agreement cannot be made either outside of the court or in mediation, the court will be have to make a decision on this topic as well. However, in instances where one parent has full legal custody, they have the right to make final decisions about school-related issues.

Because the court has the best interest of the child in mind, they are often compelled to have the child remain in the school/school district they were enrolled in prior to the divorce, as to not disrupt everything in their lives, and keep a sense of normality and familiarity. If the parent that gains legal custody lives in the school district the child was already in, then typically that child will remain at that school. If both parents have moved out of the school district, and have joint custody, they must agree on the new school. If they cannot, the child will either remain in the current school, or whichever school district the residential parent lives in.

The answer to the question posed in this blog, as stated earlier, depends largely on what the circumstances are surrounding the custody of the kids. If only one parent has legal custody, then they have the discretion of which school the child goes to. If it is shared, and the parents cannot agree, the court will have to weigh in and make the final decision.

Paul E. Rudder, Esq. has a unique advantage in negotiating custody disputes. If you need an attorney to represent you, call 212-826-9900 to schedule an appointment.

Under What Circumstances Will The Courts Modify A Child Custody Order?

Wednesday, December 27th, 2017

There is a common misbelief that no changes can be made to a child custody order once the court has made their decision. In actuality, either party can go to the court to ask for a modification to the order, post-judgment, and depending on the situation, the court may approve and enforce the modification. In fact, child custody and spousal/child support can all be revised, but many confuse division of marital property and assets, which are not modifiable, with these.

Generally speaking, there are two sets of circumstances that are substantial enough to be just cause for modification, and these are when A) a parent violates a court order, and B) when either, or both, of the spouses claim that recent conditions call for a modification.

When a parent violates a court order, the spouse bringing the claim to court is “burdened” with the responsibility to present evidence that the violation occurred. In addition, violating a court order is enough to have one held in contempt of court, and the moving party can seek that the other parent is indeed held in contempt, although a parent who violates a visitation order will usually be found in contempt of court anyway. But this finding of contempt alone will not lead to a modification to the order, and sometimes require that the violation of the visitation agreement has brought about new circumstances, which moving forward will require a change to the order.

Changed circumstances sounds a bit broad, so for clarity, keep in mind that these changed circumstances must also “adversely affect the child”. The threshold for “adverse affect” is not child endangerment, but to preserve the best interests of the child. Also, if a change in circumstance has a positive benefit on the child, like a dangerous parent leaving a child’s life, a modification might be made to ensure this new circumstance is permanent. On the flip side, if a parent gets their personal life together and establishes a healthy, beneficial relationship with the child, a change in child custody and visitation might be made to bring them back into the child’s life. However, bringing a parent back into a child’s life after they have been ordered to keep their distance is a delicate process, and once again, it is up to the court to decide whether reintroducing the parent is in the best interest of the child.

What Is A Forensic Evaluation And How Can It Impact A Child Custody Decision?

Monday, November 20th, 2017

When a couple is unable to agree on the legal and physical custody of their child/children, the court will hear arguments from both parents in what is often called a “custody battle.”  The word “battle” is not there by accident.

Child custody litigation can be a very costly and emotionally charged process, one that sometimes requires every member of the household to go through a painful and scarring process, and for loved ones to be separated for long periods of time.

The Court’s main concern in these scenarios is what is in the best interest of the children. Considering the best interest of a child guides them in determining things like who has legal/physical custody, visitation rights, etc. The child also has to undergo a forensic evaluation.

So, what is a forensic evaluation?

A forensic evaluation involves assigning a psychiatrist or a mental expert to evaluate the family through a series of interviews, information gathered and looking into essential documents. The mental health expert will have access to various family documents and third-party accounts (extended family, family friends, neighbors, etc.) of interactions with the family.

Typically, the expert will meet with the child alone, the parents alone, and the child with each parent. The expert will ask a number of questions regarding the parents and their relationship with the child, as well as with each other.

Psych tests will also be administered that will help the expert understand the different personalities and emotional strengths and weaknesses of everyone in the family. This is done to understand the dynamic of the family and create their evaluation. Note: Child Custody Evaluators are prohibited from making an express recommendation as to which parent should be afforded legal or physical custody. However, these evaluations hold significant weight, and the guardianship position is often influenced by these reports.

This written report includes the test results and all other relevant information that the mental health expert accumulated during their investigation. It will highlight the child’s relationship with both parents, the parent’s relationship with each other, and potential risks that could influence child custody or visitation time. While the court can disregard the results of the report, which is very rare, the report is often an essential tool in the final ruling.

If you need legal representation contact Paul E. Rudder, Esq. today. Mr. Rudder has helped numerous clients through child custody disputes. Call 212-826-9900 to set up a consultation.

How To Win Back Custody Of Your Children

Friday, November 10th, 2017

Having your children separated from you in the wake of your divorce (an already emotionally brutal experience) can be overwhelming and traumatic. More times than not, custody decision by the court is not likely to be overturned soon after the divorce, barring some huge and egregious act by the spouse that was awarded the custody. In order to initiate this process, it is important that you examine the reasons why the court decided to not give you custody of your children.

Moreover, it is imperative that you significantly change your behavior and/or lifestyle that the court felt was a risk to the welfare of the child. Once you file the post-judgment motion with the court, you are going to have to prove to the court that not only have you changed to the point that you can have custody of the children, but that your child’s life would benefit from a change in custody, and that the change is necessary for their welfare.

Changes that occur in the child’s life and home are known as material and substantial changes, and the courts use these as well to determine if a change of custodial parent is best for the child. If you are requesting to modify the custody agreement under these kinds of changes, note that they must have happened since the divorce was finalized. What this means is that you cannot call on some behavior of your ex during the marriage that “proves” they are an unfit parent; the court would have decided that themselves during the divorce if they thought so.

If the court, when explaining their reasoning for not awarding you custody, involved a drug/alcohol problem, or inappropriate parenting, you should already have been attending treatment courses or parenting classes. Resolving the issues in your life that the court identified as the reason you cannot have custody of your children is the best way to not only show that you have changed, but care so much about your children that you overcame extremely difficult obstacles in your life in order to have them back.

Throughout this process, it is important to retain legal counsel, as an attorney can best inform you what you need to change in your own life in order to attempt to gain custody of your children, but they also can make sure that the court is keeping an eye on your ex-spouse as well, so that if their behavior begins to compromise their ability to parent, your child is removed from the unfit location and their welfare is secured.

If you need legal advice from an experienced child custody lawyer in New York. Call Paul E. Rudder, Esq. today. Mr. Rudder can be reached by calling (212) 826-9900.