Archive for May, 2016

How Your Spouse Can Spy On You

Monday, May 23rd, 2016

It’s very common for an angry, scorned spouse to begin spying on their soon-to-be ex. In fact, plenty of couples that haven’t even begun speaking to attorneys about a separation already spy on each other. And if you find out that your spouse is in fact spying on you, you should be alarmed, and be open to the idea of talking to an attorney about the situation.

There are a few ways your spouse might be spying on you, and a few reasons why. For instance, your spouse may follow you around and spy on you, to see if you go to a bar to go drinking, or if you are buying and taking drugs (in any manner), and even stalk if your spouse thinks you are seeing someone whom they particularly don’t like or trust, like a friend or an ex.

If they notice that money is mysteriously missing or running low, they might think that you are spending the money irresponsibly, and perhaps not even on the family. Spouses will often check bank statements and credit reports of their spouse, if they aren’t already in a joint account with you.

It is important to note that a lot of people are just naturally suspicious, maybe even a little paranoid, especially if they have dealt with trust issues in past relationships. Some people are insecure, and their spying may be indicative of seeking reassurance. Others still are controlling but just because they may have been spying, it doesn’t mean the relationship is over. However, it is certainly something that should be dealt with immediately, before it turns into something worse.

How to Choose the Right Divorce Attorney

Friday, May 13th, 2016

Choosing the right divorce attorney for your particular case is a key step in achieving the ultimate goal – to end your divorce and walk away in the best shape possible.

Some attorneys are better suited for your case than others, whether it be because your divorce, in particular, requires more attention, more research, or it might be something more personal. For instance, being comfortable with your attorney and feeling like you are heard is very important as well. Some clients prefer to be very involved in every step of the divorce process while others are content with giving their attorneys all the information requested and letting them do their job themselves.

Similarly, some lawyers request that their clients be very engaged during the divorce while others just want to know a lot of details, and then they will take care of the rest. Regardless, there is a perfect lawyer for your specific needs out there, and you shouldn’t settle for whichever attorney is most convenient for you to see, or was recommended because they helped a friend of yours get a quick divorce.

Each divorce is unique. It involves different types of people, with different issues, and ultimately, as cliché as it may sound, no two divorces are ever the same. While there may be a lot of similarities if your attorney treats your case the same way he does with every other case they have had, he is doing something wrong. So when you are seeking an divorce attorney, know ahead of time what you want out of the divorce, and have at least three prospective lawyers before making a final decision.

How to Divide Your Assets during Divorce If Your Spouse is A Co-Owner of Your Business

Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016

Many small business owners often co-run the company with their spouse, and while this is a smart tactic when it comes to filing taxes and other financial duties but if the marriage does not last, the demise of the partnership is not far behind. Unless there is an existing prenuptial agreement that discusses what will happen in the event of a divorce, the process of dividing shares and valuing the business overall can be dragged on for years in legal battles.

Frequently, this legal issue can lead to the destruction of the company, as all of the attention, emotions and energy go into the divorce and the splitting of assets. Along with a prenup, spouses that are co-owners of a business should look into buy-sell agreements, which are contracts that detail how co-owners in a business, the spouses, would buy or sell their interests if it need be.

To reiterate, it will be necessary to have the business valuated at some point in the divorce, and as tempting, as it may be for both partners to get their own valuators, the reality is that valuation companies and experts are extremely expensive, and there is nothing more to gain by having two valuators.

And the most important thing to remember, no matter how attractive the idea may be, do not split the company in half. That absolutely never turns out well for either spouse or the company.